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Saturday, February 24, 2007

The only thing that remains the same is change

There are two types of change (OK, some wise guy in Manchester is saying coins and currency ... not that kind of change!): imposed and voluntary. Change that is put upon us and change that we plan.

There are two ways to deal with change: well and poorly.

It's all about control.

When change is imposed upon us, the only thing we can control is how we respond to it. It helps to know what we actually want to make that a healthy response. It also helps to have a strong, positive support group and system of dealing with problems.

The worst sort of change is the type that happens when we realize red flags have been flapping and we've either refused to acknowledge them or refused to believe they were red flags. It's called living in denial.

We've all been there, done that.

That sort of change usually ends up with us not being informed, but blindsided instead.


I've never understood why people do that sort of thing, but it certainly is done often enough. Especially when people refuse to be honest - until the truth emerges (which it always does) and smacks everyone upside the head.

We have much more control when we choose our own fate - the way we wish change to take place. If we decide what we want, how we want that goal to look and feel, then establish a plan to make it happen.

Now, that plan usually comes with surprises of its own, but they can be more positive and exciting than the original vision if we don't try to control the outcome.

One thing about change - whether we initiate it or it's foisted upon us - it sets off an emotional range between discomfort and agony even among the strongest.

So we can 1) handle it in a healthy, classy way, 2) try to live in denial about its existence (a surefire way to living in a hellacious existence) or 3) try to avoid dealing with it through every escape means known to humankind (moving, partying, drinking, hanging out with people who help us "escape"), a surefire path to a collision with ourselves, with the truth and everyone associated with it.

I find welcoming change in my life consciously is a good thing to do, because I prepare for it subconsciously and can handle it far more easily than if I would try to prevent the metamorphasis that is my life.


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