Satisfaction
Heard the story of the man who "could hardly wait?"
Instead of appreciating where he was, what he had and enjoying living in the moment - making the most of the milestones he attained and creating special memories to mark each occasion - he always looked ahead to the next one. And the next one. And the next one-
In college he didn't take a class to learn, only to be able to take the next one after it.
He'd also try to finish whatever he was doing earlier than the original deadline so he could move on to what's next more quickly.
In some cases, before he sought his next destination, he would wonder why he wanted it so badly - he would ask, "Is that all there is?"
But still, when he reached those milestones or destinations, he had the same response - next!
From finding a job to finishing project after project to joining his boss's golf club to getting a promotion to finding a girlfriend to getting married to... whatever.
Next!
He could hardly wait.
When he died?
He was shocked. Stumped. And lost. There was nothing more for which he could "hardly wait" to do.
Instead, dazed, he experienced only an insatiable sense of emptiness. Looking back on his life, he sadly realized he hadn't lived it, he had only moved through it.
He never experienced satisfaction, only desire.
"Delayed gratification" was never part of his vocabulary.
There's nothing wrong with desiring anything, but perhaps achieving satisfaction from what is desired is a greater - more satistfying - goal.
As Sheryl Crow sings in her hit "Gonna Soak Up The Sun":
It's not having what you want
It's wanting what you've got
And for those who wonder how to achieve satisfaction .. that's a much deeper question.
Just ask the Rolling Stones.
Instead of appreciating where he was, what he had and enjoying living in the moment - making the most of the milestones he attained and creating special memories to mark each occasion - he always looked ahead to the next one. And the next one. And the next one-
In college he didn't take a class to learn, only to be able to take the next one after it.
He'd also try to finish whatever he was doing earlier than the original deadline so he could move on to what's next more quickly.
In some cases, before he sought his next destination, he would wonder why he wanted it so badly - he would ask, "Is that all there is?"
But still, when he reached those milestones or destinations, he had the same response - next!
From finding a job to finishing project after project to joining his boss's golf club to getting a promotion to finding a girlfriend to getting married to... whatever.
Next!
He could hardly wait.
When he died?
He was shocked. Stumped. And lost. There was nothing more for which he could "hardly wait" to do.
Instead, dazed, he experienced only an insatiable sense of emptiness. Looking back on his life, he sadly realized he hadn't lived it, he had only moved through it.
He never experienced satisfaction, only desire.
"Delayed gratification" was never part of his vocabulary.
There's nothing wrong with desiring anything, but perhaps achieving satisfaction from what is desired is a greater - more satistfying - goal.
As Sheryl Crow sings in her hit "Gonna Soak Up The Sun":
It's not having what you want
It's wanting what you've got
And for those who wonder how to achieve satisfaction .. that's a much deeper question.
Just ask the Rolling Stones.
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